Make More Friends
A common problem nowadays is how lonely people are.
A lot of them are unable to socialize and or unwilling to in some cases.
Even those who genuinely want to make more connections end up not knowing where to start or what to do.
Here are 6 ways to do it.
1- Multiply new meetings
Get out there and meet people.
Call old friends and organize a meeting.
It sounds stupid but you make more friends if you don’t meet people.
You can’t possibly get better socially if you don’t practice and put yourself in front of live situations.
2- Capitalize on your friends’ friends:
The easiest way to meet new people is through your existing friends.
They probably know or hang out with people that are somewhat similar to them.
This saves you the trouble of approaching total strangers.
Plus you already have mutuals.
Having mutuals eases the first approach and makes it way smoother.
You already have a common point to talk about (your mutual friend) so the conversation is more likely to have a starting point.
Use this to your advantage.
3- Focus on common points:
As mentioned above, the easiest way to make friends is focusing on what you have in common.
By doing so you explain to your interlocutor that they can feel safe while talking to you.
That because you explicitly let them know that you relate to them.
4- Suspend your judgement for a while:
Don’t be too quick to judge.
Let people prove their worth but do not let pre-made ideas you might have of them define their value
Give people the time to show their true nature
Goes both positively and negatively
Gather enough info first
5- Take care of your relationships
Don’t take anyone for granted.
It costs nothing to call them once in a while to see how they’re doing.
If you do this often enough, you can make sure that the day you’ll call to ask for something.. They’ll be there.
Be smart about it.
6- Understand that you can’t be everyone’s friend
This is probably the most important
If it doesn’t click with someone or the vibe with them is off
Simply move on.
If someone who used to be a friend became distant
Simply move on.
No one is essential, everyone is replaceable
That was all, let’s sum up:
1-Meet more people
2-Capitalize on your friends’ friends
3-Focus on common points
4-Wait before judging
5-Take care of your relationships
6-Accept that you can’t be on everyone’s good side
Twitter thread by: @EgoDriv
